Many of us try to get our partner's attention and so we give them the silence treatment. At one time or the other, we have given this treatment, thinking it will send the message to them. Silent treatment can happen for various reasons, you not only demonstrate silent by not talking, but also my our body language, attitude and behaviour, When we argue on our differences, at least we are talking which can bring about result along the line but when we give the silence treatment, nothing is been said except it sends the wrong signal to either couple.
Often men and women who issue the Silent Treatment know it hurts their partners – and that’s part of why they do it. They shut down to express their anger rather than express it fairly, through words and mutual, intimate communication. In other words, when the Silent One shuts down, he doesn’t even give his partner a chance.
If you are guilty of resorting to the Silent Treatment, I must call a spade a spade –it’s a cheap and easy way to hurt your partner. All the while, it turns you into a child who is incapable of communicating in your relationship like a grown-up. If you’re in a relationship, do the honorable, adult thing and give your partner a chance to talk to you. Talk to your partner – share – and work productively on your relationship''.(Dr Seth relationship & love advice)
Have you ever given your partner the silent treatment? Or have you ever been on the receiving end?
Share with us how you felt and what to do in this situation.
nice one, abim.
ReplyDeleteLike you said, silence never resolves the matter and it has the ability to make things even worse. You can imagine how much peace you lose when you can't share with your partner all in a guise to get their attention. The truth is; no matter how hurt or angry, they may never know the problem, let alone resolve it except we speak.
so, my advice is this 'Learn to Speak', Just let him/her know how you feel.
I've been there & I know how it hurts.
Thanks Busola, you re right. Silence does makes matters worse. Couple should always find a way to communicate their feelings.
ReplyDeleteSomeone said that Marriage is one of the long lasting degrees you do where you get the certificate (marriage certificate) at the beginning of the course. God help us in succeeding at it.
ReplyDeleteSilence is a virus that slowly takes away joy in relationships. When communication cease, things goes wrong in relationships. Don't keep quiet when things does not seems right but don't be aggressive and never blame yourself. Both sides should talk things out. Putting God first, things would work out nicely.
ReplyDeleteIn my case,†ђξ silent treatment led to †ђξ break up of †ђξ relationship and it was painful, learned my lesson †ђξ hard way.*sobs*
ReplyDeleteI definitely am not an advocate of silent treatment. Whatever it is, just talk it through.
Thank you Omotee, you know its just that sometimes, we let the pain and hurt overwhelm us from seeing the whole picture. I pray that God gives us the Spirit of Wisdom even patience in all our relationships.
ReplyDeletecommunication is one of the keys that keeps relationship going so why would you want to give a silent. speak your mind when you think things are not right and sort things out between you 2 leaving third party out.
ReplyDeleteYosher Dan:- Keepin quiet is a temptation common2 women.it doesnt resolve anythin but aggravate things.bottled emotions wl always find there way out
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Oghenetega Gbadagri:- In my opinion silence can be better than expressing yourself angrily. If its something ur spouse did that hurt you I suggest you look for a quiet moment to let him know how you feel about what he did, emphasis should be on how you feel abou...
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Yinka Anita Oloniyo:- The silent treatment could be very frustrating on who ever is on the receiveng end because communication in a relationship is like what blood is to a human being...blood=life. I must say I have been quilty of being annoyingly silent when ...
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Odulaja Oluwaseyi Motunrayo at times wen your patner does not seem to want to hear your view and the conversation starts becoming very hot i know that applying silence in this situation is not cheap becos it eventually brings your spouse to have a rethink it does not ...
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Sola Ojo-Adetunji i agree with babes Oluwaseyi. Sometimes, silent treatment is not a cheap way of hurting the other partner. At that particular time, it could just be the best approach to the situation at hand.
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Martha Adaja Rotoye There is a world of difference between keeping quiet and silent treatment. Keeping quiet is refranin from speaking words that will cause a quarrel or unnecessary tension btw u and your spouse. Silent treatment on the other hand is refusing to speak to or communicate with your spouse because you are upset or angry about something your spouse said or did. It is better to know when not to speak than to deliberately refuse to communicate over some perceived offence.
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Abimbola Adelusi Fayokun Thank u babes for the contributions but as Babe Martha said, keeping quiet to to let matter cool is different from giving the silent treatment. This tends to leads to more problems at home as the other party might think you are no more interested in them and before you know it, alot would have happened. Yes, we may be angry with them, they may even be at total fault but when we resolve to this treatment, we become strangers to each other. God helps us.
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